Blog post updated on 27th July 2022.
Autism is more commonly diagnosed in males than females; therefore, boys who have autism grow into men with autism.
According to the Young Men’s Health webpage about autism, “boys are 4 times more likely to be diagnosed with autism than girls.” The website has also listed the following traits that appear in teenage boys or young men with autism:
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There is practical information and advice on intricacy, dating, sex and marriage in ‘Been There. Done That. TRY THIS!’ An Aspie’s Guide to Life on Earth’ edited by Tony Attwood, Craig R. Evans and Anita Lesko (Chapter 9, pp.158 – 176). It says that “Many people with Asperger’s/HFA have difficulty understanding the complexities” of these issues. One example of a person who finds discussing these issues difficult is Richard Maguire, who has autism, despite him mentoring “lonely adults who want to be in love, marry and have sex” who are afraid of these things yet need them greatly. A good form of advice he has is to address and negotiate friendships first and then get into “the more complex and sexual aspects of relationships (p. 170).” At the time of writing his section for the book, Maguire has been married for 21 years to “a lovely empathetic lady through a shared interest, [their] Christian Faith.” He admits that “Staying married has not been easy” because he and his wife “have needed to learn to grow and develop [their] relationship over the years (p. 171).”
Several people have conducted research on temperament and character in men with autism spectrum disorder. The research was conducted on 66 men aged 18 – 63 years who have autism and a normal intelligence. There was also a comparison group. Both groups were required to complete questionnaires “to determine differences between individuals on seven dimensions of temperament and character, based on Cloninger’s psychobiological theory of personality.” The questionnaire consisted of 240 true or false statements, “four temperament scales (Novelty Seeking, Harm Avoidance, Rewards Dependence, and Persistence), three-character scales (Self-Directiveness, Cooperativeness, and Self-Transcendence), and 25 subscales.”
Signs or traits in men whether they have autism or not in the seven main dimensions of the questionnaire included the following:
To compare results from both groups, the men in the ASD group “scored significantly lower” in the Novelty-Seeking, Reward-Dependence, Self-Directedness and Cooperativeness categories; and scored “significantly higher” in the Harm Avoidance category. There was no difference in the scores for the Persistence and Self-Transcendence categories from either group.
Nat Hawley, our Head of Community, has hosted a webinar about autism and sex differences. The webinar covers the autism differences in males and females.
While teenage boys and young men with autism can experience the signs as described on the Young Men’s Health webpage on ASD as well as those outlined in the questionnaire, older men can experience difficulties in marriage or romantic relationships besides the traits in the study. Males with autism of all ages can experience all the signs and difficulties discussed throughout this blog post. If you yourself think you may have autism, you can take our free autism test for adults to see which traits you have.